A little bit of history about myself in MMOs before I comment about Bdo, I've played MMOs for years Ever quest 1 & 2, WoW, WAoR, Guild Wars 2 & some Asian MMOs, I've always tendered to play PvE as a healer & my first time trying real PvP I enjoyed was in WAoR but I was my chosen class type of a Healer (Warriorpriest), my first combat PvP was Guild Wars 2 (was OK but didn't fit my mindset at the time) so as you can see I've always been more PvE focused.
Now to BDO, I came in to this game after a little research knowing this is a PvP focused game & has been for many years on PC, I didn't see that changing on xbox but I went ahead & got the game anyway just to try it, I got in to this game & enjoyed it from the get go. I got to level49 before looking for a guild & was a little worried about taking that step to end game PvP, I found a really good guild that's helped & guided me in my PvP journey (so much so that I really enjoy this game). At the end of the day you got this game knowing it was a PvP game, its your choice to play or not play the game. BDO is & always will be a PvP focused game, My suggestion to you is find yourself a good guild & have each others backs & just have fun end of the day it's just a game.